eople have heroes in all sorts of places. People you look up to often include Steve Jobs, Oprah, the guy you follow on Instagram, or that cool person from high school. It can be anyone, but you always are looking up to them. What makes them so different than everyone else? At the end of it, regarding DNA, you’re 99.9% similar to that person. You have many of the same attributes, physicality, mental acuity, and everything else. What makes them different is their persona. They have something you don’t, most likely some level of success that you wish you could achieve. The big take away is the whole “wish” part. Everyone wishes they had more money, more friends, and more happiness. What are the actions they take to make this happen though? If you had a magic wand, what would you change in your life? Since no one has a magic wand, I think the better question is; what’s holding you back from achieving what they have? What’s your excuse? The hero isn’t a person who just got things placed on their lap. Most often, they busted their ass for everything they’ve achieved. In one way or another, they built the catapult that launched them to where they are now. Now, take a step back. Look at your hero as a human. What do they do differently? What drives them? Read about them, take everything in and try to understand them. They're only human. As such, they’ve made mistakes in their life. Most likely, they’ve been dumped at some point. They missed a job opportunity. They probably even tripped running up the stairs recently. Remove the mystique that you shroud this person in. If you idolize them, you put them on a pedestal. I hate to break it to you, but they haven’t ascended humanity and possess some incredible mind that is completely unfathomable. No one has broken the mold on being human yet. They struggled, but remained driven and ambitious. They didn’t start with 100k followers nor were they born with an Oscar. All they had was their drive to push them along.
One person who comes to my mind right away is Katy Perry. I admire her for the shit she had to go through to get where she is. I don't idolize the flashy costumes she gets to wear now as much as I get heart-eyed and motivated from her persistence to keep going after getting dropped from label after label, breaking the barriers of how she was raised, and building an empire. All the heroes in my life, I apply their mentality to my own life to help me become my best self, and feel a little less alone by doing so.
Let me get you in on a little life hack/pro tip, as you may like to call it. Life’s a game, a cruel one at times too. But we’re the masters of this game if we embrace one little truth. We are all our own heroes. We are all we’ll ever need to succeed, to be happy, and to feel fulfilled. We were born alone and naked, and that’s how we’ll die too. So the sooner we accept this universal truth, the better off we’ll all be.
There’s nothing sad or pessimistic about this. It is what it is. We form relationships because we’re inherently social animals but we forget that our first and foremost relationship is with ourselves. We are our own anchors. And losing sight of this complicates things and causes problems - this is where we lose faith in ourselves and make life a living hell for ourselves. Self-love isn’t easy. It’s raw, ugly, and real. But it’s pertinent. Because without it, we are nothing and we are no one. We are not capable of true love if we don’t love our own damn selves first.
As long as I was looking for a hero on the outside, I was losing sight of what lay on the inside. The hero inside me was yearning to be heard and I continued ignoring her and shutting her down. Finally, she gave up in defeat and my self-loathe had no bounds. This didn’t just make me your typical emo teenager with angst and low self-esteem, it also made me unbearable and ignorant. I’m not talking about insecurities here. That’s a topic for another day. I’m talking self-hatred for petty reasons that didn’t hold stead in my life then and don’t hold any now. The only people who should hate their own selves are bullies, misogynists, homophobes, Nazis, supremacists, murderers, rapists, and criminals - anyone who has actually done hateful things. But the irony remains in the fact that these people actually feel a lot more highly about themselves than someone who probably performs good deeds for a living. The reason behind this probably lies in the fact that their confidence is what makes them do these unmentionable things with no remorse. It’s not like there’s no hope for them. They can help themselves. They can mend their ways, educate themselves and really do good for society if they wish to. My point is , they are their own hero. And we ought to be too.
A hero is anyone who is strong, kind, and true at heart. We are all heroes deep down. We are all capable of great things if we just looked deep and really believed.
You have to wake up every day and remind yourself of how badass you are. You have to remind yourself that you’re worthy of all the love and success in the world. You have to remind yourself that you are capable of so much, and you will achieve all your goals and dreams if you just work towards them and believe in yourself. You have to affirm yourself.
We all make mistakes. But we all must remember that if we don’t make mistakes then we’ll never realize what our strengths and weaknesses are. We have to make mistakes in order to progress. It’s just the way the world works. If we don’t fall, we won’t get up.
Heroes are not perfect because heroes are humans.
“All monsters are human.” is a quote from American Horror Story. It holds true in every sense because monsters are human and humans are monsters, then they are heroes too. We’re all in this mess of a world just trying to find our way. We’re all our own heroes. And just to throw in one more Katy Perry reference, "I went from zero to my own hero."
Goals are a way of actively seeking out your ambitions. But before you start starting to chasing your dreams, start by defining your goals. If you do not have goals, make them up. Everything is better than having no goals at all. Even if you don’t know what you want to do with your life, you have a goal: Find out what you want to do with your life.Read More